My Personality

My Personality

My Priorities:
I give utmost importance to my family, next good friends. I feel that these two entities in life are most vital and sensitive and shape up ones personality as a whole.

As far as my career is concerned, I am working as Web Developer in Dubai and wish to continue in the same field and reach the max I can (in techno field).

My Hobbies:
I like to read and watch tech and knowledge based articles and shows. I wish to utilize my time in the most productive way, as a result I end up doing things which give me knowledge, understanding people which helps in maintaining good relations, reading, spending time with loved ones, it can be family or friends...I try to find enjoyment and satisfaction in whatever I do. I enjoy old Hindi and Telugu music. After listening to Arabic, Malayalam, & Tamil music, I started liking them too (It's an entirely different point that I don't understand them).

I do have a modern approach to life, but what puts me off is the extremity of ones attitude in the name of modern lifestyle. I enjoy social parties, go out on long drives with my friends, enjoy nature. I like to live more, not in a small and closed mind. Somehow, whenever I see narrow minded people, I feel that they are not living their life in its fullest form. To lead a life in its fullest form, share your love and affection with people around you. By "fullest form", I mean a quality life, a life that keeps you away from hatred, jealousy and brings you closer to happiness and enjoyment. We cannot for sure become a supreme or god, but can definitely try to become more superior and quality human beings.

I am a simple guy and believe in "being good always results in good atmosphere and good contacts." A bit tempered sometimes and very sensitive and honest towards relations. I dont like double standards.

Colors: Blue, Pink, Yellow, Lavender (I like light colors)
Flowers: Rose, Lily

My Philosophy:
Don't get disappointed in whatever you do, but do it with commitment. By any chance, if you fail in what you do, try to analyze, find the good part and keep the bad as experience. That good part keeps you away from disappointment resulting in confidence and positive attitude and looking into new horizons for future growth.

Don’t repent for what you do! But think twice before doing. If you feel what you are doing is wrong, just don’t do it. If you feel it is right, do it whatever.

Don't expect anything from the deeds you perform. If you are expecting, you are sure to get disappointed.

Dont expect results much before and get disappointed with the outcome, if the outcome is negative. Reach to a stage where you take success and failure with same smile.

“Freedom of expression” sounds democratic term, right. But it has very significant role in shaping ones personality as a whole apart from good family and friends.

If possible, be only a constructive critic and accept criticism in any form, disregard other forms because it is mostly out of jealousy or lack of maturity of the critic and take constructive into account to improve your work.

My Beliefs:
I am unable to answer myself whether I believe in the existence of GOD, but frankly speaking, if one believes that there is someone who is more supreme and powerful than you and is controlling everything, and things happen to go smoothly with his thoughts, one happens to lead a good life with his fear (or by ones own nature), I don’t think there is anything wrong in believing "there is someone who is not reached by your knowledge and wisdom, and reminds you that you are nothing more than a normal human being and not in control of your destiny, you can't help, you plan something and something else happens." I don't like the basic idea of someone controlling me in any form viz., I don't like my negative emotions controlling me, I don't like my ego over riding my thought process, etc.., that doesn't mean that I do whatever I wish, on the contrary I do only what my principles say." In fact, one has every right to do whatever until and unless it doesn't harm people and society around them.

My Culture:
I feel Hinduism is a culture rather than a religion and I follow Hindu culture. I have utmost respect for human life, family values, relations, but what I don’t like is emotional blackmail using relations. I respect women from the core of my heart because I feel that they are the "chosen ones" by the "mother nature" to run the human race and where as we are just contributors in the job. We are equally important here but what I mean is the major role is of theirs.

My Thinking:
Somehow, I like Newton's 3rd law of motion (may be because it is easy to remember), which says, "every Action has equal and opposite reaction" and apply the same for some of my decisions in maintaining human relations, and believe me it really works. I try to go in the same pace as the opposite person goes. Imagine, you hit a rubber ball to a wall with some force, it comes back with same force to hit you back. In the same way, if anyone is extending hand of friendship with all their will, accept it without any ego and live to what you have accepted. You are accepting them in their real sense, after this, there is no scope for pointing at them that you lack this and you lack that. One should get adjusted with others nature and try to live along once accepted.

There is friction and resistance when there is collision. Here, one action (collision) is causing two more actions. Assume collision to be controversial arguments, fight, always having an eye on others with jealous attitute, etc, and friction and resistance to be ego, stress, jealousy i.e. results of fight, controversial argument. One can avoid these things by just avoiding the situations in various ways and utilizing the time in more productive ways. Imagine, if there is no collision and everything is smooth going (which doesn’t happen in real world scenario), how would it be? By avoiding controversial arguments, unnecessary fights one is not going to win or lose, rather can come out of the mental disturbance very easily.

There should be absolute regard to others feelings by ones nature. Always have a positive and constructive approach rather than having destructive and negative angle towards anything, let it be life, relationship, friendship, job, towards your employer, etc….

Lot of my friends say that it is weird to think, but I do what I feel is right and as far as it doesn't hurt anyone around me.

I really think of doing some charity for children suffering with various problems, helping the needful in all my capacity, but never did something great as such. Hope to do something in this life.

My Version of Marriage and Society
Practically, I feel marriage is more a kind of social responsibility and ones contribution to the race rather.

This reminds me of a story about a great naturalist X, which I read in a book. It goes like this, Father (Y) of X was a German and his mother (Z) was French. There was furious fight going on between the two countries. One night, his father (Y) who is in a very serious condition comes to his mothers (Z) place who is by then a young girl staying with her grandfather (Z'). Her grandfather (Z') initially refuses but treats him and gives him a new life. In the mean time both of them (Y & Z) fall in love and get married and are blessed with a child (X) who then became the world famous Naturalist.

Now let us consider the paradox, if the grandfather (Z') wouldn't have treated (Y) or would have killed him (Y) being patriotic to France and considering that killing an enemy is his duty (it was very easy task for an old man to kill a seriously injured man), where would have the world famous Naturalist gone and where would have his theories about evolution gone. This story made me come to above conclusion that "marriage is more a kind of social responsibility and ones contribution to evolution."

Society should be more a kind of bundle which is closely but loosely tied with harmony, peace, and affection. I feel joint family's enjoy and are in their fullest form more than nuclear family's and society was also easily controllable in olden days because of joint families. For example, imagine a circle to be society and few big blocks in it to be joint families which are controlled by the head of the family. Now imagine the same circle with more small and minute blocks (nuclear families) and understand the difference, how impossible it becomes to control more than few......

Your constructive criticism is always appreciated.

Contact:
rajpalrao@yahoo.com
rajpalrao@rediffmail.com